Thursday, December 4, 2008

Making A List And Checking It Twice

My son has fallen head over heals in love!

He has been down this road before.....a road that had a few bumps and then the final crash........It was a hard road for all of us to travel........especially Josh.

Now he is getting a second chance at love........to a beautiful, beautiful girl.........you would love her for who she is because she is very special......

God sent.............?

It has all come upon us very fast.

She has a daughter, Bonnie, 2 1/2.......I will be an instant grandma should this all work out.......

Every night when my thoughts are trying to settle into sleep, wonder keeps my mind in a whirl.

Another daughter, a granddaughter, my son's new life.......Like the wind that is whipping my trees around this morning........big life changes......coming so quickly without a chance to hold them back.........

Years ago Josh told me that he had made a list that contained all of the things he wanted in his future wife........I asked him to read me his list........He got about halfway through........his words came to a sudden halt when I said, "Josh, that sounds just like your mother!!!!"

You should have seen the look on his face!

He didn't think so!!!!

I don't know if he still has that list or not.....I wonder if he has given that old list much thought. Martha came in and stole his heart so quickly......before his mind had much time to consider past requirements.

The first list contained things he really wanted in a wife.........

But I have been wondering if he should add things that he would choose to live with if and when he finds that Martha is not perfect...........according to his idea of perfect.......

I was wondering if he and she could live with the "naughty and nice" we all have as humans and still choose to make their home a happy haven........

It is easy to see the "nice" on this side of things..........

And the "naughty" we all have different ideas of it's real definition.......don't we?

Those things we expect from others.........standards we have set for ourselves and expect others to reach....or sometimes we expect others to reach whether we reach them ourselves or not........

Josh has made his list........I hope he checks it twice........

I hope Martha has a list.........and she is double checking as well.......

And may the Lord give His grace in abundant measures.........

because that is what we all need to make relationships survive........isn't it?

Blessings,
Cheri

2 comments:

Joyful said...

Grace in abundant measures - so thankful for God's grace.

Cheri, praying that these 'lists' will be surrendered to the Lord for His stamp of approval and blessing.

Love ya,
Joy

Paula (SweetPea) said...

You are absolutely right...things look nice on one side. We say we can deal with the naughty, it won't be that bad. But what happens when we cross the fence. It's so important to truly make up our minds that there's no going back when the naughty smacks us in the face. Committment...it's valuable and very honorable...but is it prevalent these days, even in Christian marriages. Oh how I long to be an advocate for marriages...MAKING it work REGARDLESS...no ifs, ands, or buts. You know? I guess this determination to promote forever marriages comes from a believer husband failing to seeing it imperative to be forever.

I don't want to scare young couples but oh how we need to do something in our churches, society and families to show the dangers of not understanding marriage. I wish states (the law) would require marriage counseling. It's too easy to get a divorce. It's harder to get a marriage license in some cases than getting a divorce.

Sorry if I lingered too long. I'm passionate, can you tell?

I wish your son all the best. At least he has a list. We can only hope and pray they both look back on that list and stick to it. Sometimes love makes us compromise and then we regret it or the compromise makes the committment harder to be solid.

Love,
Paula